Sunday, August 29, 2010

Be Friend With Your Ex??


GET THIS ARTICLE FROM SUMWHERE..you guys should read it :

In most relationships, the time to say goodbye usually arrives at one point or another -- unless you intend to walk down the aisle, of course (and even then...). With your ex, you've shared memories that will either make you laugh or cry, and it's time to take your experiences, put them in your back pocket and move on. But somewhere on the road of parting ways couples feel the need to promise to stay friends -- which ultimately leads to more broken promises.

So, can you ever be friends with your ex? Does it have to be all-or-nothing?

Comfort zone

Although it would make things much easier in the dating world, relationships rarely see mutual breakups. One person is usually the heartbreaker, while the other mulls over the breakup for weeks, even months. It's never easy to break up with someone you've shared good times with (and even if they were bad times, they were still times).


Retrieved from AskMan.com

But the person who does the breaking up feels like less of a bad guy by offering that sense of truce: "It's not you, it's me. We can still be friends." This peace offering of friendship provides the dumper with the solace of knowing they aren't such a horrible person because they still want to be friends with their ex.

I've created a monster

Not only does it give the dumper the comfort of knowing they aren't monsters, but by wanting to remain friends, it also allows the dumper to feel that their former lover will still be in their life, and they won't have to miss having them around.

So now the dumper can move on with their life with ease, and with the pleasure of having coffee with their former mate every so often. The person who got dumped, however, has the pleasure of being constantly reminded of the person who ripped out their heart when they receive friendly messages and e-mail.

Obviously, these messages on the machine and coffee dates don't last long, and if they do, they end even worse than the breakup.

So, having considered all this, can you ever be friends with your ex? We say no. Find out why.

EXES MUST STAY THAT WAY BECAUSE

You've seen each other naked
Although it may be possible to have casual sex with a friend even this can damage a relationship. As hard as it is to accept, it's difficult to bring a relationship back to its normal state after having been intimate with someone. You will always have an image of that person naked, and memories of the trysts will always be triggered by the smell of her skin or perfume, or even by hearing a song that you once made passionate love to.

And as thick-skinned as you are, it's hard to see the person in the same light after being entangled in each other's skin and sharing a moment of sheer ecstasy with one another.

an you ever be friends with your ex? We say no, and we have more reasons...

You can't confide in each other
As hard as two exes try to stay friends, they can never really confide in each other. How do you tell your ex that you have a hot date tonight or that you and your new lover are going away on a steamy getaway? You can't even tell your ex that the reason you're smiling so much is because a woman has just pleasured you like never before.

You can tell her these things, but new lovers and mates are always going to be a sensitive issue. It's even harder to tell her how hurt you were that your date stood you up the other night, thanks to your sense of pride.

Remaining friends seems to provide us with the security blanket that the person who has been in our life will still be there, and we can call on them every once in a while to find out how they are, however, we'll never actually know how they really are.

There will always be one-sided bitterness
Since breakups are rarely one-sided, one party will always feel resentment or bitterness toward the other. Even if your ex is feigning friendship, she's not sincerely your friend. If it seems like plans with your new potential woman are always being sabotaged, they just might be.

Jealousy comes into play
And where there's bitterness, there's jelously. And the truth of the matter is that it's hard to be sincerely happy for your ex when she's just found the new love of her life.

You don't want them with anyone else
It's human nature to be jealous or resentful when our ex finds a new person to cuddle up to, even if our feelings have somewhat faded. It becomes a race of who will find the new lover first, a challenge especially brought on by the person who was dumped. Even for the person who did the breaking up, the thought of someone else taking your place in the memories that you and your ex shared is hard, and sometimes extremely painful to fathom.

Passion still exists
Even if your relationship was completely problem-ridden, chances are that the passion and sexual chemistry between the two of you still exists (unless lack of attraction was the reason for your breakup). This is a recipe for disaster because it means that every time you get together under this new "friendship" premise, the lust and passion you have makes it more likely that you'll end up in "one more" night of unbridled "goodbye" sex, for old times' sake. This brings you right back to square one -- how you felt right after your breakup, and just when you were doing so well.

MOVING ON

Leaving the past behind is hard enough, and you don't want part of your past still programmed in your cell phone. Although it's easier for the dumper, recovering from a breakup is still a hard thing to do since it means being single again, getting back into the dating scene and no longer making that daily goodnight call you and your ex used to share.

But having that person lingering in your life as a constant reminder makes it even harder to move on with your life, meet new people and turn a fresh page. It's almost like keeping one foot in the past, and another struggling to make it back into the pickup scene.

It also might be a better idea to leave things with pleasant memories of the other person, rather than drag the potentially doomed relationship through the mud.

In a perfect world, the ideal would be for exes to succeed at being friends, but in one where bitterness, jealousy, passion, and human nature exceed reasoning and rational thought, it's impossible. Unless the two of you were the best of friends before, both broke up on the same terms in a perfectly mutual breakup, both have no qualms about either of you seeing new people, and have both instilled a policy of total honesty, you're better to leave the friendship behind... along with the memories.

Weird Raya...

hye guys...i feel so damn nice today..wake up at 12.00 and got quiz at 2.oo..hahaha... nda sempat bha study..but luckily i managed to answer the quiz..heyh!! its only ABC Questionnaires..so no need to worries la..like my lecturer said, the answer is there..just need to choose one of them..hehehe...but,at least u should have a little knowledge..

and then, today, i will share with you some ads for this raya..love it so much :)



and after watch this..i miss my late dad..this Eid must be awkward without you beside us,miss you alot dad :(

feel NICE!!



currently listening to this band :)

listen dude!!!~

Saturday, August 28, 2010

frozen Leg


yeah dear bloggers :)

today i had my leg crying..hahah...i had through a longggg journey today..but,instead of that,its fun actually... when it comes to window shopping..nahhh,hilang ngantuk i hokehh..hahaha..

yeahh...now i try to post la yeah...erm..i got class this morning,CSC Class,huhh..its kinda frustrating coz i got less knowladge today..chehh..hahaha..yeah,after done with that Lab, my frind and i went to Kompleks PKNS and then went to the SACC...huh..they had a sale there... but sad to say...its not sale at al!! they marked up the price so high!! and when after discounted,perghh!! still the old price..meanless hokehh!!

hahah..then,went to Plaza Alam Sentral...too crowded today, i guess people were busy as the Eid is just around the corner..and finally we decided to Jalan Masji India..Ride one hour bus,then smpai la Majsid India...ya Allah,,,toooooooooo crowded hokeh!! its likea an army of ants looking for foods..huhhh..i hate it a lot....and after that went to SOGO..lagilahhhhh..punyalah ramai..until you can see some desperate faces, i mean the family members of the other members( yg shopping berabis) sitting at the floor..hahah..its Ramadhan bha kesian..hahah..people were tired..exhausting..

hahaha...its totally tiring..ad guess what???




i dont even buy anything!!!

repeat:: NOTHING!!

hahah..yeahh..i was busy googling for nice cloths but sad to say..im not so interested..then i was srveying the Nikon D3000 DSLR Camera..erm..rm2100 with a kit...erm....still considering..


sogo yang teda apa2..hahah

and at the evening, i went to Dataran Shah Alam as we had a bukak puasa wif our classmate..hell ya,so fun!! the picture will be uploaded soon k..juz be patient..i love patient readers like you all..hahahah...by the way.im lost tadi ya mencari tempat tuh.. i mean Dataran Shah Alam..?? huh,,never been there okeyh..hehehe...and,thats time, i beocme closer with friends from other branches..but sad to say, students form Arau dont come..huh...kenapa ya??

and im still happy after knowing that i was offered the JPA Scholarship!! hell ya man!!! its not easy dude!! heheh..im the lucky one...really, its totally a miracle..hehehe..yeahh...after dreaming a lot about it..and when it comes true...oh GOD...what a gift for me...

hopefully the money will be bank in soon...i cant wait to shop..hehehe


guys..till then...see you in next post ea...tired..mo urut kaki dulu nehh..heheh..


bubye!

Friday, August 27, 2010

JPA!!!


hii there..

im feel so happy today..i got JPA Sholarship..!!

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Sorry..

wahh..dah lama i dont update my blog..

apakah sudah jadi.??

actually i dont have a lot time..i mean leisure time..because im really tired...because i had class everyday...huhhh..sorry.. guys..

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Tired

huh...lil bit tired today..

my mum bounding for Tawau tadi..and so tired riding a bus today..

nyte.c ya!

July News.

i couldnt be careless then for your fault.

huh.yeah,its been a tiring July for me for this year since i had moved from Sabah to Shah Alam,Selangore. Since it was my first month here, there were a lot of things to be clear out, to manage down. It's totally put me in a "heartless" condition to myself. Got no rest for this July, i need to move from one area to another area. From one city to another city and my foot were yelling everyday.haha..its totally a July to be remembered.

There are a lot of things happen lately, basically after move down here. I break up with my girlfriend, had a fight with some members and collegeue, being attacked by sickness, financial problems(i mean alot of financial problem), problems with course registeration on UiTM's website portal and so on..

thanks God for giving me strength to faced everything happen. At least i got many experiences and of course i laearn a lot from mistakes. yeahh.. i managed to make myslef so strong( when it come to love problems), i managed to survive in financial crisis, i learn how to trust on myself, i make a lot of friends who really nice to me., ad so many things that are totally valuable to me..

yeahh.Thanx God, for atleast solve my financial problem, i got my loan already, just in time when i really need it. and at the same time, there was a sadness time too, when i fail to get the BKNS Scholarship which is totally out of my fault. At least they should inform us that we need to submit our offer letter from University, yet, i dont know about it, therefore, my application was rejected. and i will be hoping for the JPA scholarship.i really really want it.please GOD.. i beg you, i need that scholar..pleasee...

hahah..there were a lot things happen today, yeahh,, i went to Mc Donalds today with some of my friends. it was a coincidence actually when i need someone to accompany me to eat..And then , i found my friends from UiTM Sabah..then, i invite them to eat together, and we agree to eat at McD which was just nearby Seksyen 2..And the funny thing was, im the only guy there, and there were 5 of them and yes, they all way girls.hahaha.. and someone of them said, wuih.. 'you got 4 wife and one girlfriend to eat together tonight.'hahaha.. it was funny indeed..haha.. and then, when i was ordering for menu, i got my fries fall down!! and everyone there were staring at me..oh nooo i said..huhh.. totally shame that time!! what shoud i do?? and no one of the workers come to me to clear it..huhh..after several minutes, there was,a guy,help me to wipe it out..huhh...finish one problem..second incident,my friend was searching for straw,,huhhh...and she fail to found it.huh..then,she wen to counter.huhhuh...memalukan ja.hahah..n then, when it comes to get refill coke,,if u were at Sabah.u need to go to the counter, but here, they already prepare a jug of coke there, after workers refill baru perasan tu jug.hahaha..n then the most funny things, i bought a set of chickenmc deluxe, and the rest only 1 large french fries for 5 of them. and we actually were sharing one large coke only which actually mine..hahaha..stupid wo!!

hahahah.. too funny today..but it is totally make my life good today.hopefully it will be okey forever kan??heee..

anyway..till then..c ya :)

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